Friday, August 28, 2020
Monday, August 24, 2020
Success Through a Positive Mental Attitude — Summary
This classic will teach you how a positive mental attitude leads to success
Positive Mental Attitude leads to success sooner or later
Success can be attributed to a single characteristic, a positive way of thinking.Take Henry Ford as an example, he didn’t give up on his visionary V8 engine even though his engineers told him it was impossible to achieve. People with a positive mental attitude (PMA) aren’t afraid of failure, they try as long as necessary until they achieve their goal. They are constantly learning, adapting and self-improving despite giant setbacks on the way towards their goal.
People with PMA see setbacks as challenges
Instead of becoming discouraged at the first setback, people with a positive attitude think differently about setbacks, they take them as challenges. Instead of giving up they just try harder. This reaction is known as inspirational dissatisfaction and people use it to rise above even the most desperate and hopeless situations.
Avoid mental near and farsightedness
Mental nearsightedness means you are unable to see the opportunities and possibilities lying in your present and future. This lack of vision will obviously impair your way to success. But there is another, less obvious shortcoming, mental farsightedness.
Farsightedness means the individual wants to leap immediately to the top. He or she dreams of the future but misses out to work on the things needed to get there. For this reason, people who have this tendency fail to reach their goals, they don’t take advantage of the opportunities that are right in front of them every day.
If you want to be successful you have to both make a vision of your desired goal and notice the opportunities in front of you.
Write your goals down, use deadlines and break them down into smaller goals if necessary
Writing down your goals lets you clarify your thoughts and have your priorities set, it is a very powerful technique. To fight procrastination it is very useful to set deadlines to your goals.
If your goals are very big you have to break them down into smaller goals achievable within a day, a week or month. Completing smaller goals will help you stay focused and motivated.
Use autosuggestion to program your mind
Not all our decisions are conscious, our subconscious plays an important role. Luckily we can harness its power through autosuggestion. Autosuggestion can be started by reading a sentence twice a day aloud.
For instance, if you want to feel happier, you could tell yourself that you’ll feel happier every day, this will create momentum and in time your mental attitude will show a vast improvement.
Create good habits and correct bad habits
We act out of habits a big part of the day. So it would be helpful if those habits are beneficial to us. Benjamin Franklin worked hard at bettering himself and his behavior, he would change his habits by practicing abstinence, frugality or moderation until he’d master a particular virtue. Once he mastered a habit/virtue he would move to the next.
Changing habits is easier than you think, for example, if you want to form a habit of daily exercises you could set up a reminder on your smartphone that it is time to train during a certain time every day. The first weeks you will probably use some amount of willpower to maintain the schedule but after a time the habit will be set up and you will look forward to your daily exercises.
Don’t give up and look out for missing pieces
If you don’t succeed doing something maybe you need to do something differently or look at a different piece of the puzzle. Think about what could be the missing piece to take your project to completion. Often an unconventional approach is needed and the best way to find the missing piece.
Ignite your motivation by making a list of your goals and then starting to move towards them
If you set yourself big and attractive goals, and you believe that you can achieve them, you will automatically become much more motivated. But that alone isn’t enough, you have to start working on it. Start moving towards your goals will further motivate you.
While you are working towards your goals, you will have the opportunity to motivate other people along your way just by your example. Furthermore, you can encourage them by putting active faith in them. Let them know that you trust them and they will become more motivated.
Short Summary: The fundamental ingredient for success is a positive mental attitude. Once you adopted it you will be able to achieve whatever you decide to.
Article Source: https://www.karlbooklover.com/success-through-a-positive-mental-attitude-summary/
Sunday, August 23, 2020
7 Habits of Highly Effective People [Summary & Takeaways]
Written by Anum Hussain
7 Habits of Highly Effective People Summary
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey is a self-improvement book. It is written on Covey's belief that the way we see the world is entirely based on our own perceptions. In order to change a given situation, we must change ourselves, and in order to change ourselves, we must be able to change our perceptions.
We all want to succeed. And one path to success is identifying the habits that can help us on our journey.
I recommend starting that path by reading Stephen Covey's best-selling book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. Don't have time to read all 432 pages?
I get it -- most of us don't. That's why we summarized the entire book for you below.
7 Habits of Highly Effective People
Be Proactive
Begin with the End in Mind
Put First Things First
Think Win-Win
Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood
Synergize
Sharpen the Saw
What habits do highly effective people have?
The book opens with an explanation of how many individuals who have achieved a high degree of outward success still find themselves struggling with an inner need for developing personal effectiveness and growing healthy relationships with other people.
Covey believes the way we see the world is entirely based on our own perceptions. In order to change a given situation, we must change ourselves, and in order to change ourselves, we must be able to change our perceptions.
In studying over 200 years of literature on the concept of "success," Covey identified a very important change in the way that humans have defined success over time.
In earlier times, the foundation of success rested upon character ethic (things like integrity, humility, fidelity, temperance, courage, justice, patience, industry, simplicity, modesty, and the Golden Rule). But starting around the 1920s, the way people viewed success shifted to what Covey calls "personality ethic" (where success is a function of personality, public image, attitudes, and behaviors).
These days, people look for quick fixes. They see a successful person, team, or organization and ask, "How do you do it? Teach me your techniques!" But these "shortcuts" that we look for, hoping to save time and effort and still achieve the desired result, are simply band-aids that will yield short-term solutions. They don't address the underlying condition.
"The way we see the problem is the problem," Covey writes. We must allow ourselves to undergo paradigm shifts -- to change ourselves fundamentally and not just alter our attitudes and behaviors on the surface level -- in order to achieve true change.
That's where the seven habits of highly effective people come in:
Habits 1, 2, and 3 are focused on self-mastery and moving from dependence to independence.
Habits 4, 5, and 6 are focused on developing teamwork, collaboration, and communication skills, and moving from independence to interdependence.
Habit 7 is focused on continuous growth and improvement and embodies all the other habits.
1. Be Proactive
Quick Summary:
We're in charge. We choose the scripts by which to live our lives. Use this self-awareness to be proactive and take responsibility for your choices.
The first habit that Covey discusses is being proactive. What distinguishes us as humans from all other animals is our inherent ability to examine our own character, to decide how to view ourselves and our situations, and to control our own effectiveness.
Put simply, in order to be effective one must be proactive.
Reactive people take a passive stance -- they believe the world is happening to them. They say things like:
"There's nothing I can do."
"That's just the way I am."
They think the problem is "out there" -- but that thought is the problem. Reactivity becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, and reactive people feel increasingly victimized and out of control.
Proactive people, however, recognize they have responsibility -- or "response-ability," which Covey defines as the ability to choose how you will respond to a given stimulus or situation.
In order to be proactive, we must focus on the Circle of Influence that lies within our Circle of Concern-- in other words, we must work on the things we can do something about.
The
positive energy we exert will cause our Circle of Influence to
expand.
Reactive people, on the other hand, focus on things that are in their Circle of Concern but not in their Circle of Influence, which leads to blaming external factors, emanating negative energy, and causing their Circle of Influence to shrink.
Key Lessons:
Challenge yourself to test the principle of proactivity by doing the following:
1. Start replacing reactive language with proactive language.
Reactive = "He
makes me so mad."
Proactive = "I
control my own feelings."
2. Convert reactive tasks into proactive ones.
2. Begin with the End in Mind
Quick Summary:
Start with a clear destination in mind. Covey says we can use our imagination to develop a vision of what we want to become and use our conscience to decide what values will guide us.
Most of us find it rather easy to busy ourselves. We work hard to achieve victories -- promotions, higher income, more recognition. But we don't often stop to evaluate the meaning behind this busyness, behind these victories -- we don't ask ourselves if these things that we focus on so intently are what really matter to us.
Habit 2 suggests that, in everything we do, we should begin with the end in mind. Start with a clear destination. That way, we can make sure the steps we're taking are in the right direction.
Covey emphasizes that our self-awareness empowers us to shape our own lives, instead of living our lives by default or based on the standards or preferences of others.
Beginning with the end in mind is also extremely important for businesses. Being a manager is about optimizing for efficiency. But being a leader is about setting the right strategic vision for your organization in the first place, and asking, "What are we trying to accomplish?"
Before we as individuals or organizations can start setting and achieving goals, we must be able to identify our values. This process may involve some rescripting to be able to assert our own personal values.
Rescripting, Covey explains, is recognizing ineffective scripts that have been written for you, and changing those scripts by proactively writing new ones that are built of your own values.
It is also important to identify our center. Whatever is at the center of our life will be the source of our security, guidance, wisdom, and power.
Our centers affect us fundamentally -- they determine our daily decisions, actions, and motivations, as well as our interpretation of events.
In order to be proactive, we must focus on the Circle of Influence that lies within our Circle of Concern-- in other words, we must work on the things we can do something about.
The
positive energy we exert will cause our Circle of Influence to
expand.
Reactive people, on the other hand, focus on things that are in their Circle of Concern but not in their Circle of Influence, which leads to blaming external factors, emanating negative energy, and causing their Circle of Influence to shrink.
Key Lessons:
Challenge yourself to test the principle of proactivity by doing the following:
1. Start replacing reactive language with proactive language.
Reactive = "He
makes me so mad."
Proactive = "I
control my own feelings."
2. Convert reactive tasks into proactive ones.
2. Begin with the End in Mind
Quick Summary:
Start with a clear destination in mind. Covey says we can use our imagination to develop a vision of what we want to become and use our conscience to decide what values will guide us.
Most of us find it rather easy to busy ourselves. We work hard to achieve victories -- promotions, higher income, more recognition. But we don't often stop to evaluate the meaning behind this busyness, behind these victories -- we don't ask ourselves if these things that we focus on so intently are what really matter to us.
Habit 2 suggests that, in everything we do, we should begin with the end in mind. Start with a clear destination. That way, we can make sure the steps we're taking are in the right direction.
Covey emphasizes that our self-awareness empowers us to shape our own lives, instead of living our lives by default or based on the standards or preferences of others.
Beginning with the end in mind is also extremely important for businesses. Being a manager is about optimizing for efficiency. But being a leader is about setting the right strategic vision for your organization in the first place, and asking, "What are we trying to accomplish?"
Before we as individuals or organizations can start setting and achieving goals, we must be able to identify our values. This process may involve some rescripting to be able to assert our own personal values.
Rescripting, Covey explains, is recognizing ineffective scripts that have been written for you, and changing those scripts by proactively writing new ones that are built of your own values.
It is also important to identify our center. Whatever is at the center of our life will be the source of our security, guidance, wisdom, and power.
Our centers affect us fundamentally -- they determine our daily decisions, actions, and motivations, as well as our interpretation of events.
"To go for Win-Win, you not only have to be nice, you have to be courageous." -Stephen Covey
Another important factor in solving for Win-Win situations is maintaining an Abundance Mentality, or the belief that there's plenty out there for everyone.
Most people operate with the Scarcity Mentality -- meaning they act as though everything is zero-sum (in other words, if you get it, I don't). People with the Scarcity Mentality have a very hard time sharing recognition or credit and find it difficult to be genuinely happy about other people's successes.
When it comes to interpersonal leadership, the more genuine our character is, the higher our level of proactivity; the more committed we are to Win-Win, the more powerful our influence will be.
To achieve Win-Win, keep the focus on results, not methods; on problems, not people.
Lastly, the spirit of Win-Win can't survive in an environment of competition. As an organization, we need to align our reward system with our goals and values and have the systems in place to support Win-Win.
Key Lessons:
Get yourself to start thinking Win-Win with these challenges:
1. Think about an upcoming interaction where you'll be attempting to reach an agreement or solution. Write down a list of what the other person is looking for. Next, write a list next to that of how you can make an offer to meet those needs.
2. Identify three important relationships in your life. Think about what you feel the balance is in each of those relationships. Do you give more than you take? Take more than you give? Write down 10 ways to always give more than you take with each one.
3. Deeply consider your own interaction tendencies. Are they Win-Lose? How does that affect your interactions with others? Can you identify the source of that approach? Determine whether or not this approach serves you well in your relationships. Write all of this down.
Email is one place we all quickly build poor habits. Rather than wasting time by copying and pasting email templates that you use every day, we recommend using HubSpot's free CRM to easily send personalized email templates in Gmail and Outlook.
5. Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood
Quick Summary:
Before we can offer advice, suggest solutions, or effectively interact with another person in any way, we must seek to deeply understand them and their perspective through empathic listening.
Let's say you go to an optometrist and tell him that you've been having trouble seeing clearly, and he takes off his glasses, hands them to you and says, "Here, try these -- they've been working for me for years!" You put them on, but they only make the problem worse. What are the chances you'd go back to that optometrist?
Unfortunately, we do the same thing in our everyday interactions with others. We prescribe a solution before we diagnose the problem. We don't seek to deeply understand the problem first.
Habit 5 says that we must seek first to understand, then to be understood. In order to seek to understand, we must learn to listen.
We can't simply use one technique to understand someone. In fact, if a person senses that we're manipulating her, she will question our motives and will no longer feel safe opening up to us.
"You have to build the skills of empathic listening on a base of character that inspires openness and trust." -Stephen Covey
To listen empathically requires a fundamental paradigm shift. We typically seek first to be understood. Most people listen with the intent to reply, not to understand. At any given moment, they're either speaking or preparing to speak.
After all, Covey points out, communication experts estimate that:
10% of our communication is represented by our words
30% is represented by our sounds
60% is represented by our body language
When we listen autobiographically -- in other words, with our own perspective as our frame of reference -- we tend to respond in one of four ways:
1. Evaluate: Agree or disagree with what is said
2. Probe: Ask questions from our own frame of reference
3. Advise: Give counsel based on our own experience
4. Interpret: Try to figure out the person's motives and behavior based on our own motives and behavior
But if we replace these types of response with empathic listening, we see dramatic results in improved communication. It takes time to make this shift, but it doesn't take nearly as long to practice empathic listening as it does to back up and correct misunderstandings, or to live with unexpressed and unresolved problems only to have them surface later on.
The second part of Habit 5 is " ... then to be understood." This is equally critical in achieving Win-Win solutions.
When we're able to present our ideas clearly, and in the context of a deep understanding of the other person's needs and concerns, we significantly increase the credibility of your ideas.
Key Lessons:
Here are a few ways to get yourself in the habit of seeking first to understand:
1. Next time you're watching two people communicating, cover your ears and watch. What emotions are being communicated that might not come across through words alone? Was one person or the other more interested in the conversation? Write down what you noticed.
2. Next time you give a presentation, root it in empathy. Begin by describing the audience's point of view in great detail. What problems are they facing? How is what you're about to say offering a solution to their problems?
6. Synergize
Quick Summary:
By understanding and valuing the differences in another person's perspective, we have the opportunity to create synergy, which allows us to uncover new possibilities through openness and creativity.
The combination of all the other habits prepares us for Habit 6, which is the habit of synergy or "When one plus one equals three or more and the whole is great than the sum of its parts."
For example, if you plant two plants close together, their roots will co-mingle and improve the quality of the soil, so that both plants will grow better than they would on their own.
Synergy allows us to create new alternatives and open new possibilities. It allows us as a group to collectively agree to ditch the old scripts and write new ones.
"Without doubt, you have to leave the comfort zone of base camp and confront an entirely new and unknown wilderness." -Stephen Covey
So how can we introduce synergy to a given situation or environment? Start with habits 4 and 5 -- you must think Win-Win and seek first to understand.
Once you have these in mind, you can pool your desires with those of the other person or group. And then you're not on opposite sides of the problem -- you're together on one side, looking at the problem, understanding all the needs, and working to create a third alternative that will meet them.
What we end up with is not a transaction, but a transformation. Both sides get what they want, and they build their relationship in the process.
By putting forth a spirit of trust and safety, we will prompt others to become extremely open and feed on each other's insights and ideas, creating synergy.
The real essence of synergy is valuing the differences -- the mental, emotional, and psychological differences between people.
After all, if two people have the same opinion, one is unnecessary. When we become aware of someone's different perspective, we can say, "Good! You see it differently! Help me see what you see."
We seek first to understand, and then we find strength and utility in those different perspectives in order to create new possibilities and Win-Win results.
Synergy allows you to:
Value the differences in other people as a way to expand your perspective
Sidestep negative energy and look for the good in others
Exercise courage in interdependent situations to be open and encourage others to be open
Catalyze creativity and find a solution that will be better for everyone by looking for a third alternative
Key Lessons:
1. Make a list of people who irritate you. Now choose just one person. How are their views different? Put yourself in their shoes for one minute. Think and pretend how it feels to be them. Does this help you understand them better?
Now next time you're in a disagreement with that person, try to understand their concerns and why they disagree with you. The better you can understand them, the easier it will be to change their mind -- or change yours.
2. Make a list of people with whom you get along well. Now choose just one person. How are their views different? Now write down a situation where you had excellent teamwork and synergy. Why? What conditions were met to reach such fluidity in your interactions? How can you recreate those conditions again?
7. Sharpen the Saw
Quick Summary:
To be effective, we must devote the time to renewing ourselves physically, spiritually, mentally, and socially. Continuous renewal allows us to synergistically increase our ability to practice each habit.
Habit 7 is focused around renewal, or taking time to "sharpen the saw." It surrounds all of the other habits and makes each one possible by preserving and enhancing your greatest asset -- yourself.
There are four dimensions of our nature, and each must be exercised regularly, and in balanced ways:
Physical Dimension: The goal of continuous physical improvement is to exercise our body in a way that will enhance our capacity to work, adapt, and enjoy.
To renew ourselves physically, we must:
Eat well
Get sufficient rest and relaxation
Exercise on a regular basis to build endurance, flexibility, and strength
Focusing on the physical dimension helps develop Habit 1 muscles of proactivity. We act based on the value of well-being instead of reacting to the forces that keep us from fitness.
Spiritual Dimension: The goal of renewing our spiritual self is to provide leadership to our life and reinforce your commitment to our value system.
To renew yourself spiritually, you can:
Practice daily meditation
Communicate with nature
Immerse yourself in great literature or music
A focus on our spiritual dimension helps us practice Habit 2, as we continuously revise and commit ourselves to our values, so we can begin with the end in mind.
Mental Dimension: The goal of renewing our mental health is to continue expanding our mind.
To renew yourself mentally, you can:
Read good literature
Keep a journal of your thoughts, experiences, and insights
Limit television watching to only those programs that enrich your life and mind
Focusing on our mental dimension helps us practice Habit 3 by managing ourselves effectively to maximize the use of our time and resources.
Social/Emotional Dimension: The goal of renewing ourselves socially is to develop meaningful relationships.
To renew yourself emotionally, you can:
Seek to deeply understand other people
Make contributions to meaningful projects that improve the lives of others
Maintain an Abundance Mentality, and seek to help others find success
Renewing our social and emotional dimension helps us practice Habits 4, 5, and 6 by recognizing that Win-Win solutions do exist, seeking to understand others, and finding mutually beneficial third alternatives through synergy.
"Not a day goes by that we can't at least serve one other human being by making deposits of unconditional love." -Stephen Covey
As we focus on renewing ourselves along these four dimensions, we must also seek to be a positive scripter for other people. We must look to inspire others to a higher path by showing them we believe in them, by listening to them empathically, by encouraging them to be proactive.
The real beauty of the 7 Habits is that improvement in one habit synergistically increases our ability to improve the rest.
Renewal is the process that empowers us to move along an upward spiral of growth and change, of continuous improvement.
Key Lessons:
1. Make a list of activities that would help you renew yourself along each of the 4 dimensions. Select one activity for each dimension and list it as a goal for the coming week. At the end of the week, evaluate your performance. What led you to succeed or fail to accomplish each goal?
2. Commit to writing down a specific "sharpen the saw" activity in all four dimensions every week, to do them, and to evaluate your performance and results.
Originally published Jul 8, 2019 8:13:00 PM, updated June 04 2019
Article source: https://blog.hubspot.com/sales/habits-of-highly-effective-people-summary
The Seven Habits Of Highly Effective People Signature Series by Dr Stephen R Covey
Dr. Stephen R. Covey shared the secrets of highly successful people in his well-renowned best-seller "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People". Most people have read the book and probably understood the habits, but the question is if they have developed it into habits? Did they use them in their every day life?
This is exactly why the new series "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People Signature Series" was conceived. The purpose of this program is to assist individuals to bring in lifelong habits of effectiveness. Everybody know that in learning new habits, it would take weeks, months, or even years to break from the old habits. It would also take a lot of time until the new ones would take effect. But once taken in, these new habits would need little energy expenditure.
With this program, everyone is given an opportunity to have a deeper understanding of the principles and applying them in one's life for it to become the basis of each a new habit.
To summarize the seven habits:
Habit #1. Take the initiative.
Habit #2. Always focus on the set goals.
Habit #3. Prioritize ruthlessly. Know what is important.
Habit #4. Focus on Mutual Gain for all relationships
Habit #5. Listen and Understand. Do not React Immediately.
Habit #6. Be a team builder. Appreciate what others can offer.
Habit #7. Promote self-growth. Do not forget to give self rewards.
In the new signature series, Dr. Covey talks about people's "victim mentality" that weighs down and paralyzes most people. Here, he emphasizes that people are not the result of their own circumstances, instead everyone can choose to react to every situation they face. Each individual is not a victim. Each one has the power to change the events of our lives from feeling like a victim into taking control of the whole situation.
In The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People Signature Series, Dr. Covey also shows the importance of making a blueprint not only for one's professional life but also one's personal life. It teaches individuals that all things are created twice. First, it is created in the mind (mental creation) wherein a person pictures what he/she wants, and then follow through executing it physically(physical creation).
In pursuing the goals, people has to remember to ensure that all settlements or resolutions are mutually advantageous, mutually rewarding. Dr. Stephen R. Corvey also teaches people how to generate an 'abundance mentality' so that every personal happiness, pleasure, and accomplishment is turned outward in order to appreciate the individuality and the proactive spirit of other people.
It is also important to stop and recognize the significance of taking a time off to regularly take care of oneself not only physically but also spiritually, mentally, and socially. People have to stop being defined by others' perception and archetypes but to start looking inside and determine one's own values. People have to balance all dimensions of their lives consistently.
These are just some of the knowledge and insights that can be learned in The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People Signature Series. To be successful, one has to give up the old baggage that has been pulling the person down. Success is setting one's mind to be truly successful.
Visit The Personal Development Company if you would like to learn more about Habits Of People Signature by Dr. Stephen R. Covey
By Ben Sanderson
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/5509440